It’s 2021- Should Men Still Pay For Dinner?
We’ve all been taught that men should be the one to treat women to their meals. I mean, if you’re a man and can’t take care of the bill, are you really a man? At least this is what we were told to think. With the rise of independence, where do we stand on this conflict?
Russian Culture
If you know anything about Russian culture, you already know that men are the head of the household. It is a tradition that men are the providers and women are the caretakers. Women are the ones to cook the dinners, clean the home and look after the children, all while the men go to work to make sure the family is taken care of.
This isn’t to say that there aren’t independent Russian women, because there sure are, but many Russians carry on their traditions and don’t see it as they’ve lost their independence. In fact, this is how they work as a team.
When going on a date with a Russian or Ukrainian woman, the thought of paying the bill will not even cross their mind. This is because these women expect to be taken care of by their man, and in return, they will take care of the home and children you share.
Western Culture
In the United States, many women are declaring their independence. They don’t need no man! While it wouldn’t be fair to group all women under one statement, there are still many women who are happy to be taken care of by their man. So now you’re confused. Are you supposed to pay for the date or are you overstepping boundaries?
Well, this ultimately comes down to the woman you’re seeing. As with many things in life, you can feel it out. Does she often pride herself on how well she can take of herself? If so, you might want to discuss how the bill should be handled. You can do this by asking her if it’s okay that you take care of dinner. Handling the uncomfortable situation this way will show her that you’re not assuming she’s okay with you paying the bill and have enough respect to ask her where she stands.
If you find that you’re uncomfortable with her paying the bill, offering that the bill be split is a great route. Another way to have an equal balance in the relationship is to switch back and forth between who is going to pay: you pay for dinner, she grabs the movie, etc.
If she is a woman who thinks the man should pay, this could come off as a red flag to her. I mean, you asked her out on a date and are expecting to split the bill? You might find that your first date is also your last date. As stated earlier, feel it out. If you’re unable to read her, pay the bill and then follow up later to ensure she was comfortable with the end of the evening.
With EQUALITY now for men and women, it now seems like a barbaric custom for men to pay for women on a date! It should now be considered an obselete custom. But men will do anything FOR the girl, and in a way it is a bribe, since men are the aggressors anyway. Waiting for the woman to take the initiative and you stay single! I should know. I’m still single and in my 60s! :o)
We’ve seen situations where the one asking the other on the date is the one to pay! What are your thoughts there?
I do not mind it It shows sh will not be easy The Pride Lion King Protects but the Lioness feds the young if Daddy can’t bring home the Bacon! Now in the the70’s if a woman hints she wants to mate in the club she will come and ask do you like to dance and you say yes Olala (YES PLAYING COY WORKS TO) and it is nothing really new as women have to be aggressive to protect the survival of her culture. But we are living in modern Civility or do we? with Domestic Violence and Rape still existing I don’t think so Bu Polite God Fearing Men should always be Chivalraress most of the time not take advantage of a
woman’s wealth and I’m not looking for a sugar mama Nor I’m not any FWB unless we are Married and agree to split the bill if one of us comes up short on cash
The men should pay the bill if he takes a woman in a date and to be honest with you I’m the best in cooking I know myself so what I’m trying to say here other thing’s I can help my wife in home not leave my wife to do everything for me when I’m here or I can manage to help her with cooking or dinner and I can clean the house too help my wife to feel happy all the time, what if my wife is not feeling well I don’t have to do other thing’s for her? Yes the men he must take care for his family nomatter
you feel it is barbaric.
you feel it is a bribe.
perhaps that is why you are sill single ?
Yep i think men should always.
Yes Men Should always Pay . It is there Duty;;
Ancient time to present man earned money (pure) for family and friends take apart of living enjoyment etc, now the female are able to better spend their money man ( vishnu ) women ( lakshmi ) no matter that Bill pay by man or woman, they are made for each other ( shiv_shakti ) the God or godess ( brhma_saraswati ).
There are three big scams that Ukrainian/Russian women use to scam foreign men that come to visit them, or who they meet on the streets when the men go there to visit, and those are the picnic/cafe date where the man pays for an interpreter where both end up bailing on the man splitting the money he paid the interpreter. Another is the nightclub scam, the girl invites her friends to show up and sit with you and her and they order a round of drinks or a bottle of wine and then they go to the bathroom and never come back but then the big bouncers come by with a very large bill for very expensive wine. But the relevant one for this discussion is where the girls go out on dates for no other reason than to get a free meal. Some of these ladies can get 1-3 free meals each day. knowing this happens more often than not, I would like to argue that men should not have to pay for anything but what they eat and drink. BUT…. the reality is, no matter how crummy the situation is, if you want a Russian or Ukrainian woman to respect you, you gotta pay and this won’t change as they do not see any incentive for changing.